It’s been an interesting year for Vancouver, certainly for singles in the city, as many singles report that they didn’t date as much this year as compared to previous years (the Olympics, recession and HST partially to blame?). Whatever the reason, it’s clear that most singles are optimistically looking forward to a better, romance filled 2011!

We’re going to be right there with you of course, we spent the latter half of the year working on projects that will finally debut in January 2011 (it always takes longer than we think they will) and now we’d like you to join us for…

“The End of Year Singles Mixer with Prizes from MMW and HSY”

Are you single and lovelorn? Wanting to make those special connections with the opposite sex but have been too busy to date or don’t know where to begin?

On December 14th, at 6:30pm, please join other Vancouver singles for a dinner and drinks mixer at Mbar (180 West Georgia, by Cambie).

Come and meet new friends to spend Christmas and New Years with and meet the Man Meets Woman/Happy Sexy You coaches who will be happy to discuss the finer points of dating with you and perhaps even introduce you to other singles.

The cost? There is no cost to intend, just your own food and drink. Please bring your jovial and friendly spirits and be prepared to have a good time.

Please tell two friends and RSVP by emailing sexygirl@happysexyyou.com

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What: The End of Year Singles Mixer with Prizes from MMW and HSY
Who: Man Meets Woman and Happy Sexy You
When: Tuesday, December 14th, 6:30pm start.
Where: Mbar, 180 West Georgia, by Cambie Street, downtown Vancouver.
Cost: none, just your own food and drink.

How to RSVP: Please tell two friends and RSVP by emailing sexygirl@happysexyyou.com

This could be you chance to make this holidays the last holidays you’ll ever be alone. Please tell two friends and RSVP.

RSVP by emailing sexygirl@happysexyyou.com

Best regards,

Happy Sexy You
Lifestyle and Dating Coaching for Women
sexygirl@happysexyyou.com, 778.999.5094
www.happysexyyou.com

In Part 1 of Signs That a Man Likes You, we talked about how a man will nervously approach you and try to talk to you if he likes you. Here are the rest of the signs that he does.

How he treats you.

If a man likes you, he’ll try to get a response from you to see if you like him back. That means he may be courteous with you and treat you very nice, while at the same time both tease you and compliment you. When this happens, and he’s doing it well, you don’t have to do anything, your natural response will tell you everything he needs to know and if you like it, he’ll naturally be encouraged to proceed.

He tells someone.

If a guy likes you and is mustering up the courage to meet you and ask you out on a date, he’ll sometimes rally the support of his buddies (who will know something is up anyway, as he’s probably acting nervous) so he’ll tell them/or someone that he likes you to get that emotional support.

He shows up unexpectedly.

If a man likes a woman and has had a crush on her for a while, you can bet he’s noticed her schedule. He’ll try to be where you are so you can happen to run into each other and perhaps strike up a conversation. And when he is at those places, he’s likely scoping out the place to see if you are around.

Shows interest in your life.

When a man likes you, he’ll show interest in your life and what you are doing. He’s looking for things you have in common, or things about you he can help you with. He just wants to know more about you, what you are interested in and how available you are to date him.

He wants to be around you a lot.

A man will look for any opportunity to be around, to talk to you and give you a lot of attention. It’s almost like he’s fascinated by you (note: not obsessed) and just feels affection around you.

He contacts you when you are not together.

If a man is interested in you, he’ll call, text message, and email you. He’ll chat with you on the phone for as long as you want, anytime you want and calls frequently. It can be annoying, but hopefully he’ll be able to gauge how much you like it.

He asks you out for a date.

Ok, this one is obvious, but if a man likes you, he’ll want to ask you out for a date. Now ladies, this is scary for him as this is the ultimate confirmation that you like him, if his feelings are reciprocated. (I’ll write about how to respond/what to do when a man asks you out for a date in a future article).

Assuming you agree, he’ll show up on time, as he’ll likely be watching the clock countdown until your date. He’ll pick you up wherever you are (not try to meet you halfway, unless it’s your idea) and will look and smell nice. Chivalry says that he’ll buy dinner as well, but be sure to offer to pay half.

There you have it. Good luck ladies.

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Dating is a lot of fun. Who doesn’t like being swept off her feet? But let’s face it, dating is also nerve wracking and stressful. We want to make sure we have good dates and hate to be disappointed, or worse, embarrassed and made to look like a fool.

Well, it’s equally as stressful for men who is usually the gender who (has to) makes the first moves to initiate the relationship. Yes, today it’s common for women to help him along by dropping hints (which we’ll talk about, both in a future post and at the upcoming The Art of Meeting Men Weekend Experience) but as men and women communicate differently, it more often than not goes over men’s heads.

If a man likes you, what’s going through his mind? Does he fear the possibility of being rejected by you? Or that an attempt to ask you out for a romantic date might risk the friendship you share and might even seriously offend you to the point where you start ignoring him? Sure, you wouldn’t do that to him, but its likely some other woman has, so you can’t blame that guy for being a little gun shy.

So in cases like these, it is important for women to be able to pick up on the signs and signals that confirms a guy likes you so you can also reciprocate his feelings if you are interested back.

Some of these signs include:

He tries to talk to you and wants to know more about you.

He’ll approach and might ask you a question or try to start a conversation about any random thing. Ideally, the conversation is good, he’s makes you laugh and creates a connection with you and you can throw him a bone by asking about him and contributing to the conversation as well.

His body language is about you.

He’ll make an effort to not turn his back to you (for too long, if at all) and he’ll turn towards you and smile a lot. He’ll do his best to be gentle in his touch and leans into you when he’s talking. If he is really charismatic and inviting, then he’ll confidently stand and open himself up to you. Regardless, his body language will give himself away as he’ll give you a lot of attention and treat you different than other women.

It’s all in his eyes.

If he likes you, he’ll look you up and down, smile, look at you a lot and give you a certain special heart melting look. Eye contact is important here. You’ll both feel like you’ve hooked up with your eyes alone and if the ‘message’ gets across, it can be a very powerful moment.

He’s nervous.

When a man approaches a woman, the possibility of rejection is weighing heavily on his mind. He doesn’t want to look stupid and feel embarrassed and it’s a strong move on his part to suck in his ego and make the first move. He’ll likely be shaking, have sweaty palms, or stumble in the conversation, so do your best give him some assurance that he’s ok.

Stay tuned for many more indicators in Part 2 of Signs That a Man Likes You

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Are you wanting to get a date, and maybe more, but don’t know where to start? Well, you’re no longer be in the dark, join our The Art of Meeting Men Weekend Experience and learn why you aren’t attracting the men you want to date and discover how you can!

Today, when we date, we sometimes forget about making the other person happy. We’re usually too concerned with doing things to please ourselves (isn’t it true that Generation X is the me-me-me generation?).

We’re looking out for ourselves and our best interests too much and sometimes forget to put the other person (perhaps our significant other!) first. Yet, putting someone else’s needs and wants first is the first step in creating a lasting, affectionate relationship.

Making someone happy means being sensitive to their needs. A common approach that many women pursue is to try to ‘know’ what the other person wants in order to bring him happiness, but the truth is that we don’t need to know (nor can we always know) exactly what they want. Remember that people are different; what makes one person happy may not make another.

An effective way to make someone happy show them sensitivity and that you care. Being  sensitive to their concerns and desires is important. If you truly care about giving your man happiness, then one simple way is to become aware of the things they treasure, for example.

We don’t have to look far to know what makes a person happy. Here are some simple yet effective ways:

1) A simple touch of affection

Extending happiness can be as simple as giving an affectionate touch. You know how it feels to be in the loving arms of people you love? Don’t you feel happy and assured by the caress of your special someone? I’m sure you do, especially during those times when you are at your most vulnerable. Remember that touch has hidden power and we long for it from other people.

2) Be appreciative

If you want to make someone happy you have to appreciate them more. Give them credit for their accomplishments -no matter how little- and give importance to the effort they put out. People need to be appreciated one way or another, and by being generously appreciative, you are sure to give someone happiness.

3) Extend a helping hand

Helping someone is the most noble form of bringing happiness to someone. Nothing brings greater delight to a person than finding a helping hand to aid her in her moments of need. All of us need a helping hand once in a while and we feel appreciated when someone shows up when we need them the most. Be alert for this opportunity if you want give someone that dose of happiness.

4) Make someone smile

Have you ever wondered why a sense of humor is a positive? Being with a person who is jolly, lighthearted and humorous illuminates our spirits. No matter how our day goes, when we’re in the company of an upbeat and jovial character, it never fails to make us happy. Make an effort of putting a smile on someone’s face and you’ll never be forgotten.

5) Show kindness

It is said that kindness is the universal language of love. By being kind to someone we express our concern for the other. Kindness makes us connect with others, overcomes all barriers, and can be portrayed an act of love. When someone shows us kindness it lifts our spirits and gives us an unexplainable feeling of gratitude. It makes us happy knowing that someone have made an effort to go out of their way just to extend their grace.

So if you want to give the gift of happiness to make your relationship better, always remember to consider the other person’s emotions. Let’s all try to be more appreciating, loving, caring, respecting, and sensitive to the people whom we want to extend happiness. Stop being deaf and blind to the obvious needs of others, learn to let go of yourself to clearly see the manifestation of someone’s longing, and from there we give the most memorable gift we can give.

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(The last conversation practice class over the summer was a great success. So much so that we may have one or two more this fall/winter).

• Do you sometimes find it hard to speak to strangers, or the opposite sex?
• Do you wish there was a way for you to improve your conversation skills?
• Do you think practicing conversation in a safe, productive environment will help?

This Saturday, August 14th, we are doing something different upon tremendous request from our clients.

We are holding another open Conversation Practice Class from 2pm to 3:30pm. We hold these everyone so often as they are a great way for you to brush up on your conversation skills, learn how to make fast and deep connections with the people you meet and gain confidence in your ability to connect with and attract the opposite sex.

Interested in coming?

—Details—

What: Conversation Practice Class for Men and Women
Who: Man Meets Woman and Happy Sexy You
Where: 119 West Pender St (by Beatty)
When: Saturday, October 31st, 2010 at 2pm
Cost: $15 to cover the cost of the room, pay at the door.

You Can Spot a Confident Woman by the Way She Walks into the Room

Some of the most important things a woman needs in her life are to have a healthy and genuine feminine confidence and self-esteem. Real Confidence is not something you can fake in the long run as other people can sense whether the confidence you’re projecting is real or not.

How confident would you rate yourself in the areas of work, health, and relationships? If you found room for improvement, that you are not living at your fullest potential, consider that the happiness you could be having is passing you by – even now as you read this.

You can spot a confident woman just by the way she walks into a room. She exudes personal power and self-respect. Whether she is ‘pretty’ or not is irrelevant, she knows she is beautiful because all women are beautiful when they affirm they are. A confident woman is proud of who she is and where she came from and she has the courage to stand up for what she believes in.

When a confident woman exudes self-assurance and even sensuality, both men and women can’t help but to be attracted to her.

This woman can be and should be you.  The challenge is that if you aren’t already a confident and secure woman, particularly I dating, it can take you a long time, years even, for you to claim your power and get what you truly deserve in this world.

On September 17^th at 7:15pm, please join a panel of communication and relationship experts as they discuss the topic of “Becoming a Confident and Empowered Woman for Dating!”

Panel consists of:

• Agatha Kasprzak of Happy Sexy You (http://www.happysexyyou.com)
• Vincent Ng of Conversation Arts (http://www.conversationarts.com)
• Giovanni Amenta of Pink and Grey Image Consulting (http://www.pinkandgrey.ca)
• Moderated Sue Klinger Happy Sexy You (http://www.happysexyyou.com)

After the talk, you are invited to join us for drinks at Moxies Restaurant around the corner to further discuss confidence for dating and relationships.

Please mark this on your calendars and RSVP to attend.
*all proceeds to benefit the

What: Dating as a Confident and Empowered Woman
Who: Presented Happy Sexy You
Where: YWCA Hotel, 733 Beatty St (by Georgia)
When: September 17th, 7:15pm
Cost: $10, all proceeds to the Greater Vancouver Food Bank Society
How to RSVP: Please RSVP you and your guest by filling the form below or by emailing sexygirl@happysexyyou.com

A common error that many women make today is they believe that if a man is interested in her, he will approach her. If he isn’t, then he won’t. While in theory this sounds like it makes sense, the reality is that this is just an excuse that women make that prevents them from establishing contact with their male counterparts. This affirmation is used by legions of women who find themselves perpetually complaining that “there are no menâ” wherever they are.

But consider this. There are men who do like you, who are attracted to you, but who are too scared to boldly cold approach you. Every man, no matter who or how great a seducer he is will occasionally experience incidences of cold feet.

Ladies, I’ll tell you straight up, if you want to meet more men and have more dates, then help the poor guy along. Throw him a bone.

Traditionally, it has been the man’s responsibility to approach women. It is his god given task; heaven forbid that women do the approaching, the rejection could put her into a self induced coma for the rest of the week. However, approaching for either sex is an anxious and nerve wracking experience, it is only because men have accepted the fact that if he is to experience sexual encounters he’ll have to make the first move. In fact, after a while, men either get good at approaching women or they become desensitized to the pain of rejection. Perhaps both.

What can you do to get him stammering in front of you? Send him an approach invitation. You can do this by smiling earnestly at him. Make eye contact, hold his gaze, and give him a friendly nod. Perhaps position yourself away from your group of friends (so as to least intimidate him) to give him access to you. Maybe even pose where he can clearly see an opening and brush your hair as you look him up and down. If you are so inclined to take this step a further, then use your incredible vocal talents and say, “hello”.

If he is truly a man, he’ll pick it up from here and BAM, you’ll find yourself in conversation. Now, this could turn into a potential date, or at the very least, provide you with a few minutes of adventure and entertainment. You’ll be proud of yourself for making the first move and allowing him to try to impress you with something you, perhaps, have no interest in at all.

What if he doesn’t respond the way you were hoping or there is no reaction? Then this guy is either too dumb or too wussy for you and really needs a helping hand for his Mars to establish contact with your Venus. That is, if you still want him.

After a few months of inviting men to approach you, you’ll find your dating dance card full and will be the envy of all your equally as desperate friends who will continue to lament their single situation and complain to each other that you are never around anymore.

Happy Sexy You ~ Lifestyle and Dating Coaching for Women is an attraction coaching company that teaches women how to attract men, and keep him! Their website is www.happysexyyou.com and they can be reached at sexygirl@happysexyyou.com.

All over the city, women are crying, “where are the men?” Our answer: they are right in front of you. You just need to know how to catch him…and keep him.

Thankfully, there is something other than books, magazines, and your well intentioned friends to come to for advice on meeting and dating men. Happy Sexy You is a unique and specialized coaching company that offers coaching to the modern woman based on her needs today. We make it easy, fun, and enlightening to help you have success in dating and create a romantic and long lasting relationship. The life you believe you deserve is possible!

And who wouldn’t want that? Can you imagine what it would be like to find your ideal man? To be happy and loved? To live life with passion and vigor because now you feel alive?

Happy Sexy You is Vancouver’s premiere dating and attraction coaching company for women of all ages, who may be single, divorced, or mature and who have not had the success in dating you’ve wanted. All you want is to find a relationship partner. Someone to fall in love with.

With years of conducting personal dating coaching for both sexes, Happy Sexy You has been the leader in practical hands on real world dating progress that can truly make a difference as to whether you meet a man for dating and a relationship. Or not.

You’re sure to want to be put on our waiting list for our very special flagship weekend course, the Art of Meeting Men weekend experience and while you’re here, please take a moment to sign up for the Happy Sexy You newsletter where you’ll get valuable tips on how to meet men for exciting dates and fulfilling relationships.

You won’t find anything like this anywhere else. It’s About Time. Tell Your Friends.

Want advice NOW? Read our articles below for deep insights and events to help you meet men.

Did you know that the most common place women accidentally “derail” their great new relationship is when they feel like things are getting close and they ask a man where he sees their relationship going.

There’s no surer way to trigger a man’s “withdrawal response.”

This is where a man will instantly switch from being open, affectionate and excited at the thought of being around you, to then not calling and acting indifferent or completely uninterested in you.

Have you ever seen a man suddenly withdraw this way? And did it make you wonder what in the world was going on with him?

Well, did you know that a man can have this kind of instant “withdrawal response” even if you just had sex for the first time a few days ago?

Don’t put yourself, or what could be a great future relationship, in jeopardy this way.

If you don’t know how to talk to a man about what you’re feeling and what you’re looking for in a man and a relationship from the very start, then you’re doomed to make the mistakes that push great men away from the right women for them.

Don’t risk getting hurt or screwing up a potentially great relationship with the right man because you didn’t take the time to know and understand how men really think about and connect with women to start lasting relationships.

It would be great if it was as easy as you asking a man how he feels… and him saying,

“I love you and I want to be with you.”

But the reality is that if a man isn’t already coming to you and saying these things, and you want a relationship with this man… then you need to know how to do 2 things:

1) Get him to the place where he’s FEELING this way in the first place (wanting you to be his girlfriend or more)

2) Start the conversation about what’s going on between you in a way that will make him feel excited and INSPIRED about the future with you, instead of uncertain and RESISTANT

Have you ever admitted your feelings to a man only to have it backfire on you?

Perhaps he was a friend that you started being physical with, but your feelings for him grew each time you got together until you couldn’t take it anymore… and blurted out everything you were feeling.

But then he got really “weird” on you and began telling you that he didn’t want to “ruin your friendship” or maybe he didn’t want to end up hurting you?

You knew the two of you could be really good together, if only he would open up and stop being so afraid. Right?

And you wondered what you could do to get back the closeness you felt… because ever since you came clean about how you felt, your relationship didn’t feel the same like it did before.

It’s an all-too-common situation.

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Used with permission by Happy Sexy You, an attraction coaching company that teaches both men and women how to attract the opposite sex. We is frequently called upon for writing and interviews and can be found at www.attainlove.com or sexygirl@happysexyyou.com.